In today’s dating world, people disappear without explanation, send mixed signals to keep you emotionally attached, or stay in undefined “almost-relationships.” These experiences can leave hearts confused, anxious, and questioning self-worth. But what does Jesus, who cared deeply about love, truth, and people’s hearts, say about this?
Let’s explore this through Scripture.
1. Jesus Values Truth, Not Mixed Signals
Verse: “Let your ‘Yes’ be yes, and your ‘No,’ no.” — Matthew 5:37 (NIV)
Breadcrumbing thrives on uncertainty, just enough attention to keep someone hoping. Jesus teaches clarity and honesty. Leading someone on emotionally while avoiding commitment goes against His call to be truthful and straightforward.
If intentions are unclear, it’s not love, it’s confusion.
2. Disappearing Without Explanation Hurts Real People
Verse: “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you.” — Matthew 7:12 (NIV)
Ghosting may feel easier than having a difficult conversation, but Jesus calls us to empathy. How would you want to be treated if the roles were reversed?
Love considers the emotional impact of our actions.
3. God Is Not the Author of Confusion
Verse: “For God is not a God of disorder but of peace.” — 1 Corinthians 14:33 (NIV)
Situationships often come with anxiety, insecurity, and constant overthinking. If a connection consistently brings confusion rather than peace, it may not be aligned with God’s design for relationships.
Peace is a sign of God’s presence; confusion is a warning sign.
4. Guard Your Heart in Undefined Relationships
Verse: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
When you invest emotionally in someone who won’t commit, your heart is at risk. Jesus never taught us to ignore our emotional well-being in the name of “love.”
Protecting your heart is wisdom, not weakness.
5. Love Is Patient and Kind—Not Manipulative
Verse: “Love is patient, love is kind… it is not self-seeking.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4–5 (NIV)
Breadcrumbing is often self-centered—keeping someone around for attention, validation, or convenience. Biblical love seeks the good of the other person, not personal gain.
If it benefits one person at the expense of another, it isn’t love.
6. Your Worth Is Not Defined by Someone’s Inconsistency
Verse: “I have loved you with an everlasting love.” — Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV)
Being ghosted can make someone feel disposable. Jesus reminds us that God’s love doesn’t disappear, go silent, or show up only when convenient.
God’s love is consistent—even when people are not.
7. Jesus Calls Us to Love with Integrity
Verse: “The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.” — Proverbs 12:22 (NIV)
Situationships often avoid labels to escape responsibility. Jesus calls His followers to integrity—being honest about intentions, emotions, and expectations.
Trust is built on honesty, not ambiguity.
So… What Would Jesus Say?
Jesus would likely challenge us to:
- Be clear, kind, and honest
- Stop playing with emotions
- Choose peace over confusion
- Value people more than convenience
- Remember that love never leaves people feeling disposable
Final Reflection for Youth
If a relationship needs constant decoding, it may not be God-centered. Real love reflects God’s character, truthful, consistent, and respectful.Before staying in a situationship, ask:
“Is this bringing me peace, or slowly draining my heart?”